Bearing Witness

Caregiving from a Buddhist perspective is a recognition that this person’s suffering is also my suffering. When I see that, whether I’m the person in the bed or the person making the bed, I have to confront this precariousness. Mindfulness … Continue reading

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Intention in Service: Caring for Ourselves in Caring for Others

For years, I’ve worked with people who are dying. Some of these people are very tough. They may have been living on the streets for a long time. They may be angry about their loss of control. Often they don’t … Continue reading

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Rest in Love

When we are caring for someone who is sick, we lend them our body. We use the strength of our arms to move them from the bed to the commode, and we can also lend them the strength of our … Continue reading

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True Nature is Indestructible

True Nature is indestructible. No part of its disappears…though it may appear in a completely new way. Sitting here this morning, in Hawaii, seemingly on the edge of the world overlooking the endless ocean, it became clear that there is … Continue reading

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Service

At times service just happens in the way of things. Doesn’t it? Someone stumbles on a curb and we reach out to support them. A friend calls with a family problem and you listen. Maybe we formalize our service by … Continue reading

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Don’t Wait

We can harness the awareness of death to appreciate the fact that we are alive, to encourage self-exploration, to clarify our values, to find meaning, and to generate positive action. It is the impermanence of life that gives us perspective. … Continue reading

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No Escape

The habit of escape does not serve. Pain + Resistance = Suffering. It’s counter intuitive but healing is always found by turning toward the suffering. Intentionally becoming more permeable, present, and mindfully curious engages our resources, resilience, reduces the sting … Continue reading

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Mindfulness in Action

The growing stability of mindfulness predisposes us to move beyond superficiality, to penetrate experience and investigate it in order to have a deeper understanding. Gradually, we begin to have insights into why our thoughts, feelings, and emotions arose in the … Continue reading

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Lessons from dying folks

Been thinking about lessons dying folks taught me. Here are a few. Be curious…..it encourages the mind to open instead of ignore…..it’s the doorway to joy. Embrace paradox….hang out with contradictions. Often when we embrace paradox a third option we … Continue reading

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Angeles Arrien 1940 ~ 2014

Cultural anthropologist, author, educator, mischief maker and core faculty at Metta Institute ….Angeles often spoke of the four rivers in each of our experiences: Inspiration, Surprise, Challenge and Love. Good questions to ask at the close of each day “River … Continue reading

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